自我限制：成功的鑰匙！

 Is it really possible to be more successful by limiting yourself?

自我限制真的可能更成功嗎？

Yes.

答案是肯定的。

But limits are supposed to be evil and dirty; the enemies to our inner free spirit. Right?

但限制通常被認為是有害的、惡劣的，是自由的敵人，這種觀點正確么？

Well what I’ve realized is that sometimes limits are actually the key to your success.

我所意識到的是，有時，限制其實是成功的鑰匙。

The Difference

不同之處

There are unconsciously ingrained self-limitations. And there are consciously chosen self-limitations.

既存在無意識地、根深蒂固的自我限制，又存在有意識地、選擇性自我限制。

Unconsciously habituated limitations are the kind that just happen to you. You didn’t really choose them, they just kind of showed up. They might be the result of human domestication, institutionalization, or public schooling. Wherever they come from, you probably didn’t consciously decide that you want those self-defeating limits as part of your automatic behavior. No one wants that. To choose something like that on a conscious level would be pretty silly.

無意識的習慣性限制是那些只發(fā)生在你身上的事情。你并不是真正地選擇了它們，只是由于它們出現(xiàn)了。它們可能是人類教化、制度化或公共教育的結(jié)果。無論它們的起源是什么，你極可能無法有意識地決定你希望這些自我挫敗的限制成為你的慣性行為的一部分，沒有人愿意這樣。有意識地選擇這樣一些事情真的很愚蠢。

So that type of limiting conditioning really sucks.

所以這種限制條件真的很差勁。

And it’s no wonder that we become so loathing to the sight or mention of limits.

難怪我們會如此嫌惡地看待或提及限制。

But it turns out there is actually such a thing as positive limits. That sounds crazy, doesn’t it?

但實際上的確存在積極性限制。這聽起來很瘋狂，不是嗎？

That’s what I first thought.

這是我的第一個念頭。

I’ve always been a kind of nonconformist. I’ve long had a streak of wanting to test limits, break rules, and everything else that goes along with a rebellious mindset. Getting into self-development only added to that, as most gurus and “experts” in the human development field will tell you “There are no limits, but the ones you place on yourself.”

我一直是那種不愿墨守陳規(guī)的人，一直有想測試極限、打破規(guī)則的傾向，并抱著逆反的心態(tài)順應每件事情。自我發(fā)展只是附加值，因為大多數(shù)人類發(fā)展領域的專家或“教授”將會告訴你“根本沒有極限，那只是你為自己設定的！”

Well, what they never really tell you is that some of those limits you place on yourself can be positive.

好吧，他們所說的絕不是真正地告訴你，你為自己設定的這些限制有積極作用。

When you think of a “l(fā)ife without limits” you have a tendency to think that you can do anything. Which is true, to a certain extent. But the problem with the no limit perspective is that it avoids criticism because every critique is labeled as a “l(fā)imitation.” Real legitimate issues are dismissed as impossibility thinking. Real legitimate problems are seen as selling yourself short, and stifling your potential.

當你思考“生命沒有限制”的時候，你會有一種傾向，覺得自己能做任何事情。在一定程度上，這是正確的，但不存在限制這一觀點引發(fā)的問題是，它避免了批評，因為每個批判都是黏上“限制”標簽的。真正合理的問題在無法思考時，會予以駁回。真正合理的問題被視為推銷短處，抑制潛能。

But this is just part of it. The real issue comes when you see all limits as evil without any evaluation.

但這只是它的一部分。當你認為所有的限制都是沒有任何價值的惡魔時，真正的問題也就產(chǎn)生了。

Because some limits are actually beneficial. Sure, you can do anything you want, but you can’t do everything. The no limit mindset doesn’t really like this idea, though; it avoids boundaries and dismisses them as snares that would hold it down.

因為一些限制通常是有益的。當然，你能做任何你想做的事情，但是你無法做每件事情。盡管，沒有限制的心態(tài)并不是這種想法，它應該是繞過界限，像陷阱一樣抑制界限并最終解決它們。

Here’s the hidden irony:

以下是隱藏的諷刺：

The no-limit mindset is actually an act of limitation. 

沒有限制的意識形態(tài)通常是限制的表現(xiàn)。

Once you’ve put yourself in a pattern of rejecting all limitation, you’ve embraced a fixed state of being. Your no-limit policy has deceptively limited you.

一旦陷入拒絕所有限制的模式，你就會信奉一種固定的生命形態(tài)。你的無限制規(guī)則迷惑地限制了你。

A few of the positive limits I’ve implemented

我執(zhí)行的一些有用的限制：

I’ve come to realize in my own life that some limitations are positive and necessary. They help me achieve greater levels of success than I could have without them.

我意識到，在生活中，一些限制是積極的，必需的。它們幫助我達到更高的成功水平。

I limit myself by only focusing on one themer direction for improvement each month. 

我每個月會限制自己只在一個主題或發(fā)展方向上改善。

I limit myself to working on only the most important task every morning. 

我每天早上限制自己只為最重要的任務工作。

I limit myself to a maximum of 90 minute periods of work, then take at least a 10 minute break. 

我限制自己持續(xù)工作最長的時間為90分鐘，然后至少休息10分鐘。

I limit the number of projects I will work on at a time. 

我限制項目的數(shù)量，我會按照時間段工作。

I limit myself to the number of times I will check email every day. 

我現(xiàn)在每天限制自己查看電郵的次數(shù)。

I limit myself by not working on Saturday and Sunday. 

我限制自己周六和周末不工作。

I limit the amount of time I spend on writing blog posts. 

我限制自己寫博客的時間。

I limit the number of coaching clients I will take on at a time. 

我限制自己每次指導顧客的數(shù)量。

These are just a few examples of way I embrace conscious limitation in my life.

這些只是我有意識進行限制的例子。

I’m sure you can think of way that you can implement limits in your life, in a way that serves and empowers you. And the good news is, you don’t have to disband your quest to obliterate self-defeating limits. Just take an intelligent approach to the limits you let into your life.

我肯定，你會思考你在生活中需要執(zhí)行的限制，它們會更好地為你服務，讓你更強大。好消息是，你無需撤銷消滅自我挫敗的限制。只需采用明智的方法規(guī)限你的生活。

Coming from someone who’s consistently blacklisted limits from his life, I can fervently tell you that they’re not all that bad. What matters is what you do with them. And more importantly, that you choose them, they don’t choose you.

我一直將限制從生活中拉入黑名單，我能真誠地告訴你們，它們并不都是有害的。重點是，你如何根據(jù)他們?nèi)プ?。而更重要的是，是你選擇他們，而非他們選擇你。