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                                                                             人生在世，如果計(jì)較的東西太多，
                                                                                       名利地位，金錢(qián)美色。
                                                               樣樣都不肯放手，那就會(huì)如牛重負(fù)，活得很累；
                                                                                      反之，什么都不計(jì)較，
                                                                         什么都馬馬虎虎，什么都可以湊合，
                                                                     那也未免太對(duì)不起自己，活得沒(méi)啥意思。
                                                                               聰明的人，有生活智慧的人，
                                                                    會(huì)有所不為，只計(jì)較對(duì)自己最重要的東西，
                                                                             并且知道什么年齡該計(jì)較什么，
                                                                        不該計(jì)較什么，有取有舍，收放自如。
                        
                                                                                                    十歲時(shí)，
                                                                              應(yīng)該不再計(jì)較家里給的零花錢(qián)多少，
                                                                              不和別人家的孩子比較穿名牌服裝，
                                                                           少不更事，和人家比吃穿，還情有可原，
                                                       年紀(jì)到了整數(shù)就該懂事了，前有孔融，后又洪戰(zhàn)輝，都是楷模。
                        
                                                                                             二十歲時(shí)，
                                                          該不再計(jì)較自己的家庭出身，不再計(jì)較父母的職業(yè)，
                                                     十幾歲是，會(huì)和別的孩子比較家庭出身，比爹娘官大官小，
                                                          恨不得都投生帝王之家，將相之門(mén)，也是人之常情，
                                                                   但如果到了‘弱冠’之年，還弱不禁風(fēng)，
                                                                                        尚無(wú)自立之志，
                                                             出身貧賤的還為家庭自卑，老覺(jué)得抬不起頭來(lái)。
                                   出身富豪的還處處依靠父母，在家庭蔭護(hù)下養(yǎng)尊處優(yōu)，那就會(huì)一輩子都沒(méi)出息。
                          
                                                                                               三十歲時(shí)，
                                                                                  已成家立業(yè)，為父為母。
                                                                                有了幾年家庭生活的經(jīng)驗(yàn)。
                                                       大丈夫該不再計(jì)較妻子的容貌，深知賢惠比美貌更重要。
                                                                  會(huì)過(guò)日子媳婦比會(huì)打扮的媳婦更讓人待見(jiàn)；
                                                        老婆該不再計(jì)較老公的身高，明白能力比身高更有作用，
                                                沒(méi)有謀生能力的老公，縱然長(zhǎng)成丈二金剛，還不如賣(mài)炊餅的武大郎。
                        
                                                                                            四十歲時(shí)，
                                                                  該不再計(jì)較別人的議論，誰(shuí)愛(ài)說(shuō)啥就說(shuō)啥，
                                                                                      自己想咋過(guò)就咋過(guò)。
                                                                  人言可畏，嚇嚇上世紀(jì)30年代的阮玲玉還成。
                                                                      如今的明星，一星期聽(tīng)不到他的緋聞?shì)W事，
                                                                       沒(méi)人對(duì)他議論紛紛，他就急得火燒火燎的。
                                                                                咱們雖然沒(méi)有明星那高深道行，
                                                                 但不會(huì)再輕易被別人議論左右，這點(diǎn)本事應(yīng)該有的，
                                                                                 否則也對(duì)不起‘不惑’這兩字啊。
                            
                                                                                                五十歲時(shí)，
                                                                             該不再計(jì)較無(wú)處不在的不平之事，
                                                                             不再計(jì)較別人的成功對(duì)自己的壓力，
                                                                      不再眼紅他人的財(cái)富，不再當(dāng)仇富的‘憤青’。
                                                                              半百之年，曾經(jīng)滄海，閱人無(wú)數(shù)，
                                                                                見(jiàn)慣秋月春風(fēng)，不再大驚小怪，
                                                                                 歷盡是非成敗，不再憤憤不平。
                                                                                 看新貴飛揚(yáng)跋扈，可不動(dòng)聲色。
                                                                         看大款揮金如土，也氣定神閑，耐住性子。
                        
                                                                                                 六十歲時(shí)，
                                                                            如果從政，該不再計(jì)較官大官小，
                                                                    退了休，官大官小一個(gè)樣。都是退休干部；
                                                                如果經(jīng)商，該不再計(jì)較利大利小，錢(qián)是掙不完的。  
                                                                                         再能花也是有限的。
                                                                                心態(tài)平和對(duì)自己身體有好處；
                                                            如果舞文弄墨，當(dāng)不再計(jì)較文名大小，文壇座次。
                                                                                畢竟‘文無(wú)第一，武無(wú)第二’；
                                                                只要心情愉悅，有感而發(fā)，我手寫(xiě)心寫(xiě)也就行了。
                                                                          古來(lái)圣賢皆寂寞’管他文學(xué)史說(shuō)三道四。
                                       
                                                                                               七十歲時(shí)，
                                                                          人到古稀。該不再計(jì)較的東西更多。
                                                                                            看淡事情更廣。
                                                               年輕時(shí)爭(zhēng)的你死我活的東西，現(xiàn)在只會(huì)淡然一笑。
                                                          中年時(shí)費(fèi)盡心機(jī)格外計(jì)較的東西，如今看來(lái)已無(wú)關(guān)緊要。
                                                                                   一生多少事，‘都付笑談中’。
                                                                                但是不是說(shuō)明都可以不再計(jì)較了，
                                                                                     那也不是，這個(gè)歲數(shù)的老人，
                                                                                       我以為要有三樣特別積極；
                                                                              健康的身體和諧的家庭，良好的名聲。
                                                                    至于別的東西，也就算了吧，誰(shuí)愛(ài)計(jì)較誰(shuí)解決去。